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Today is 5 years since we officially started dating. Though we’d been seeing each other for about 6 weeks beforehand. In a little over two weeks we are officially getting married. Some days it seems like no time has really passed at all (as in time flies) and others it feels like I’ve know him forever and we’ve grown into this symbiotic blob. Neither are a bad feeling when I stop to think about them. Often in a weird ways they are both comfortable and exciting all at once.

One of my biggest worries about our wedding day is getting all ugly cry-face and not being able to speak because I’m hyperventilating all over my pretty dress and new shoes. This is a worry because he deserves to have his new wife articulate how awesome he is coherently to their loved ones. (even if they really already know, it’s hard to miss) I know everyone will understand the ugly cry-face and some may get a little weepy as well. Weepy in this case is good for you.

So while I’ll probably not be able to be understood I will be meaning…

“I love you. I’m so happy to be getting married to my best friend. And I can’t wait to continue to experience life with you.

Music – The Cousin Project


We’ve been making a list of songs we like for the wedding. OK so not just songs we like but couple songs that both of us like. We have 12 so far. We will probably think of more if we sat down an went through our music. We will do that later.

For the wedding we don’t want our kinda out-there music tastes to be the only ones represented. OtherJ had this great idea to get all of the cousins (I have a bunch) involved by having them help pick out music for the day. Songs they like, preferably own and want to share.

Yes, it will be an all day event for some. Picnic early afternoon more of a game night starting around dinner. All are welcome but the family friendly low-key version is the picnic. Later is for all the family friends and their munchkins to come over and celebrate with us. And all this time we need music. Lots. Of. Music.

I think that will be the wedding update this weekend, just have to work out the kinks with OtherJ.

December is Non-Wedding month


Break from the wedding stuff

I think I’m ready to take a break from wedding planning for December. I have some crafts I might do, but I think now is a good time to set everything down and do something else. Maybe I’ll come back refreshed and inspired. I think I’m worn out because I have no one really local to share things with. The OtherJ is not excited about the same things I am excited about – not that it is a bad thing, its probably the best thing because I can get dumb and crafty, and he will plan our food.

We’ve had things generally planned for awhile before we were officially engaged. After getting engaged things solidified –

  • wedding bands ordered
  • site picked out
  • baker met/tasted/adopted
  • cake toppers planned and half made
  • favors planned and started to be made
  • dress and shoes bought
  • DYI projects planned

We are well on our way but we are having such a low key low maintenance wedding that there is not much that requires any sort of urgency.

Things that may get done on my break: putting the deposit down on the site ($150), learning how to tie a pretty bow for our favor baskets, making out cake topper people, DIYing my hair comb… but thats it.

Non wedding things to get done: Xmas cookies, putting the tree up, Xmas presents, saving for non wedding things we want next year, saving for PAXEast trip, finishing plants vs zombies with OtherJ
Trouble with finding an officiant

We still have some details to work out but we are for sure having a courthouse legal signing and a separate ceremony. Though our reasons are a little different.

1) We are getting married where my family lives, but we are doing it more for my grandparents who are old and can’t really travel. Since this is not an “us” place we want to get all legal in our own state, in our little city.

2) The waiting period for out-of-towners where we are getting married is 3 days – we don’t have that time.

3) Around here it seems like there are only ministers that can marry you… even the ones ordained on line I hate that the word minister or anything like it is attached to the title. Hate it.  I hate it more than the fact my state has “god” on the marriage certificate. So even if we were getting married locally we would have gone to the courthouse and had someone we love do that actual ceremony.

My parent’s have been informed – I think a couple other family members, but other than that it is a non issue and I don’t see the need to tell anyone. They might wonder because my littlest sister (12) will be helping the reading/ceremony, but we can tell them if they ask about it later.

If we were not doing the above someone in the atheist group mentioned which seems the most in line with what i would want from an officiant.


December is also money saving month

The plan is to cut down on spending. I’m going to attempt to only spend the allowed amount of cash for December instead of wondering where it all went. It will be an experiment.


Distance Planning


We’ve been “planning” our wedding since way before we became engaged. Just storing away ideas that we liked because we knew it would happen eventually (he wanted to make the proposal perfect). We’ve had the same general idea for over a year now so we are going with that. It fits us and our lifestyle and our family so it it still a wonderful idea. The problem is that my grandparents are old. Grandma has heart problems and Grandpa is in the early stages of dementia they are both almost deaf. We live 800 miles from them (and the rest of my family) and it is really important that they be there.

I had to call and tell Grandma twice that we were engaged because she didn’t hear me the first time. OtherJ decided though our current plan was great, that it would be more practical to have the wedding where my family is. That would mean that only his family would have to travel (they would have had to anyway) and that Grandma and Grandpa could definitely be there. Since we’d had everything planned out on where now we’re starting over finding a venue.

I recently went to visit my parents who took an entire day to drive me around to take scouting pictures of parks. (Cause they are awesome.) They are going to be by eyes and ears for this alot of the wedding. They’ve even gone out to new destinations while I’ve been back home and sent me pictures to scope out. I am hoping that the rest of my family will do the same on their outings to the area parks this summer when the leaves have return.