Day 09: Something about which people seem to compliment you.

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com·pli·ment  :/ˈkämpləmənt/Noun : A polite expression of praise or admiration.

I do not keep track of compliments.  I am really shitty at accepting them. It really makes me uncomfortable.Often when I receive a compliment it is for something that I believe is extraordinary or should be expected. Maybe my standards are higher or maybe I should just take a minute to appreciate it.

Maybe compliments have turned into “likes” on facebook? I get those for food projects that the husband says are tasty. Maybe the biggest compliment I get is that my husband is all over me all the time. He still looks at me and says “we should get married” whenever I do something silly that reminds him I’m not just a normal wife. I get complimented for having a big butt. I really am not sure how to take that one. I’m not even sure where that came from in my family. I only have one other relative that is comparable. Maybe we were meant to have babies with our “birthing hips.”

Why can’t I take a compliment?” Our culture has taught us that it is attractive to have confidence in ourselves, but only within reason. At some point, we learn that if we display too much confidence, it actually repels others rather than attracts them.”

Maybe it is a culture thing, but I do not see it as a women only thing as this website suggests. I believe that in some cases it is a low self esteem thing. A thing where you were picked on with sarcastic comments when you were younger to the point that you just don’t believe people and have to make a strong effort to take things as they are intended.

I will work on it. Say thank you and try to feel like they mean it.

 

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