Category Archives: Family

Grandma and Grandpa

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In three days is my grand parent’s 64th wedding anniversary. Today, Grandma is in the hospital with chest pain.( Atrial fibrillation which means fluttering of the heart, with low blood pressure and high heart rate.to be specific) I’ve been trying for a week to think of something to write for their anniversary book – something meaningful or sappy, something… at this point anything. I check facebook when i got home from work and the only thing from my family is talking about Grandma.

I am often reminded of how lucky I am to be so close to my extended family. My entire life I have grown up with cousins, aunts and uncles and Grandma and Grandpa close by. There has never been a time where I have been without my family. Even living sometimes 2000 miles away they have always been there. The common thread my Grandparents. We’ve met at their house year after year for holidays and birthdays and graduations. Our friends have adopted them, and our spouses/significant others have been welcomed in as we grow older. They are the ones that picked us up from school when we were sick and no one else could be there. They were the ones to drive out to pick you up from anywhere your car had decided to break down. If Grandpa couldn’t manage to fix it right then. My Grandparents are our glue. We would be lost with out them. Either stranded on the side of the road or going hungry on Sundays. We’ve all helped pick beans or raspberries in the summer and make squished mints at Christmas time. We’ve always known what love really is and what it should be because of the little things: cold water and pickles right before bed, sunglasses to watch tv and eat breakfast with on the mornings where the sun wasn’t going to rise for another hour or two and the lights were to bright to see. Macaroni and Cheese. Saving the first raspberries of the season. Wild flowers along the back fence. Grandpa not getting upset when you carve your name in the freshly poured cement. Going to big lots or the dollar store with the dollar or two grandma gave you and being able to by anything you thought might fit your Barbie.

My cousin’s facebook post “KP : OMG, my grandpa is so SWEET! “I met your grandma and knew she was the one for me…met her one day and married her the next”” reminded me of the story of how my Grandparents met. From what I remember/know Grandpa was in Europe for WWII and they had been writing back and forth to each other for a year and a half. When Grandpa came back to the states he’d seen his family for a few days and then drove 3 states over and met Grandma. They got married the next day. Who in the right minds does that? That kind of wonderful crazy has lasted 64 years. Good, bad, moving across the country, military and all. That kind of crazy is what you need to last 64 years. I hope that kind crazy is hereditary.

pictures and musings

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For reference… please do not give me things that have any religious significance. Really. I appreciate the thought, but donate money to an animal shelter or special Olympics or something that actually shows you’re paying attention.

The past month or so there haven’t been many picture updates – cause we’ve been sick, its been rainy, we had guests, the works. Below its the set from this month. I might post the pictures from stone mountain soon. Other than that we have pictures of the bunny cage building for last month. Lately we’ve had to take it easier cause at stone mountain something weird happened to my knee – when i came home it decided it needed to swell and be useless for a couple days. Then repeated such idiotic things the next couple short hikes… plus 10x the pain. So I’ve taken to wearing a knee brace when we go hiking – Well taken to meaning the next time I’m going to remember to bring it with me.

In work news! I started a new position at work, no more money but it keeps me from falling asleep at work and makes my day go by a million times faster. so WOO..

J2 news, in boot camp, doing well – not as hard as expected so far, will be going to the Gulf Coast for IT training when done with camp.
J3 turned 10 this past week. wow I am old and i need to remember to ship her present.

For those wondering – No, I don’t think we’ll be able to make it north this year. I’m sorry – no real time off this year because of all the trips coming next year. Will be north for a week in September next year though.

Weird things that happened recently: Saw Tom at Ikea. Well I saw him and avoided confrontation by trying to hide behind the visor in my car. Why? I’m not sure anymore. I wish I hadn’t cause I’m ridiculously happy right now and only really have reason to show off. Maybe it was a knee jerk reaction to having not seen or heard from him in two years – when I disconnected the phone line.
Been talking with an old roommate lately. She’s married, one little boy, two little girls baking and sounds the happiest I’ve ever known her. We’ve known each other for 11 years now (damn i feel old), we’ve seen each other through probably the worst parts or some of the worst parts of our lives, and now we’re both in really great places. It’s fantastic!

From Demons

Pictures from this month…
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visitor

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Last week we had a house guest. OtherJ’s mom visited for a the week. I hiked with them on Sunday, the rest of the week they were out and about all over the state checking out the mountains and other sites including, Lazy 5, Grandfather Mountain, the Blue Ridge and a tour of the local area. I worked but left early on Friday to have dinner/movie with them. Saturday we hit the Transportation Museum and the local History museum – which has a cell phone guided tour (pretty cool).
Great house guest, but I’m happy to go back to real life.

You Fail

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Normally I like the Fine Living Network… but today they had a segment that made me wonder what era I was living in.
Smart tips: Leaving Dad in Charge” – the name itself should prove to be an indicator of why this made me angry.
Included in this blob of 50’s era bullshit were these –

# Before leaving home, cook simple prepared meals that are easy to heat in the microwave. It will give you peace of mind as well as provide nutrition for the family.
# Write out a schedule of the kids’ daily activities to help keep Dad on track while you’re away.

To me if both parents don’t already know HOW TO COOK or the schedule, then you both fail. It should not be one parents sole responsibility to keep track of these things. “Mom” fails cause she’s a control freak and “Dad” fails cause he’s lazy and can only use the microwave, apparently. Now I get that “Dad” might not cook every night and might not be the one to normally cart the kids around but he should not have to have instructions like a baby sitter would in order to take care of his own spawn. You fail as a parent if you do. You are not a parent you are a babysitter who gets to hump mom.

Another gem from this segment:

If you have small children, lay out their clothes a head of time (so “Dad” doesn’t have to worry about it).

WHY IS “DAD” INCOMPETENT? Maybe its just me, I had an involved Dad who did part of the cooking, house chores, picking out clothes, EVERYTHING… Maybe I’m just used to a family that was in things together and didn’t segment their roles in the family. Something needed to be done, someone did it. Maybe it was this way back in the day…ITS NOT BACK IN THE DAY… Seriously if you have to treat your spouse like a child, you may want to rethink your whole relationship.

(note this includes families where everyone lives in the same house – those where one parent usually only has custody on weekends could be an exception for a schedule off appointments/classes)

non-hiking saturday

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Today was filled with a ton of grading. I only have one set of papers left. I tried to play Katamari, but it started to make me sick. I talked to friends, but other J has been at work and the house has been lonely. I got house work done; dishes, laundry, fed the snake, and cleaned the bunny cage.
Right now I’m watching Extreme Makeover home edition. Looking out the window, hoping to get a txt message… its a lonely night.

Email from Dad

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W.D. to me, OtherJ, J2 show details Feb 18 (5 days ago)

…’cause I’m a total geek. But it’s good stuff.

“If there’s no great glorious end to all this, if nothing we do matters … then all that matters is what we do. ‘Cause that’s all there is. What we do. Now. Today. I fought for so long, for redemption, for a reward, and finally just to beat the other guy. Because, if there’s no bigger meaning, then the smallest act of kindness is the greatest thing in the world.” — Angel, “Epiphanies”