Break from the wedding stuff

I think I’m ready to take a break from wedding planning for December. I have some crafts I might do, but I think now is a good time to set everything down and do something else. Maybe I’ll come back refreshed and inspired. I think I’m worn out because I have no one really local to share things with. The OtherJ is not excited about the same things I am excited about – not that it is a bad thing, its probably the best thing because I can get dumb and crafty, and he will plan our food.

We’ve had things generally planned for awhile before we were officially engaged. After getting engaged things solidified –

• wedding bands ordered
• site picked out
• baker met/tasted/adopted
• cake toppers planned and half made
• favors planned and started to be made
• dress and shoes bought
• DYI projects planned

We are well on our way but we are having such a low key low maintenance wedding that there is not much that requires any sort of urgency.

Things that may get done on my break: putting the deposit down on the site ($150), learning how to tie a pretty bow for our favor baskets, making out cake topper people, DIYing my hair comb… but thats it.

Non wedding things to get done: Xmas cookies, putting the tree up, Xmas presents, saving for non wedding things we want next year, saving for PAXEast trip, finishing plants vs zombies with OtherJ
Trouble with finding an officiant

We still have some details to work out but we are for sure having a courthouse legal signing and a separate ceremony. Though our reasons are a little different.

1) We are getting married where my family lives, but we are doing it more for my grandparents who are old and can’t really travel. Since this is not an “us” place we want to get all legal in our own state, in our little city.

2) The waiting period for out-of-towners where we are getting married is 3 days – we don’t have that time.

3) Around here it seems like there are only ministers that can marry you… even the ones ordained on line I hate that the word minister or anything like it is attached to the title. Hate it.  I hate it more than the fact my state has “god” on the marriage certificate. So even if we were getting married locally we would have gone to the courthouse and had someone we love do that actual ceremony.

My parent’s have been informed – I think a couple other family members, but other than that it is a non issue and I don’t see the need to tell anyone. They might wonder because my littlest sister (12) will be helping the reading/ceremony, but we can tell them if they ask about it later.

If we were not doing the above someone in the atheist group mentioned http://www.celebrantinstitute.org/?p=map which seems the most in line with what i would want from an officiant.

December is also money saving month

The plan is to cut down on spending. I’m going to attempt to only spend the allowed amount of cash for December instead of wondering where it all went. It will be an experiment.